Four words that can have a huge impact — selling the family home. Whether it is a home that you and your siblings grew up in, or one that you have created with your family, it can be an emotionally filled process. Inevitably, there’s a family member who cannot let go and is set on sabotaging the sale. We’ve all seen how this movie ends, right?
Before you implode under the perceived pressure of this venture, let’s take a look at some of the possible implications and how to approach them.
- Have a (serious) conversation with your children. While this is never easy, your kids will appreciate the honesty and being able to ask questions. Will they lose their friends? If so, how will they stay in touch? What will their new home be like, not to mention starting over at a new school. Listen, address their questions, and ensure they feel safe within your family and about the decision to move.
- Share the good things. For those doubters in the family (especially kids), it is important to share the positive aspects of a move or of selling a beloved home. For kids, there may be advantages to the new local — more parks, a community pool, or a bigger area for them to play. For hesitant adults, discuss the considerations for the sale and reassure them that any nostalgic memories can still exist without the home.
A home is a special place and the decision to sell, especially if you’ve been in the home for a long time, affects not just you but your family. You can help bring them into the conversation by making time to listen and understand their concerns and then share your own. This way, while you might not all agree, no one will feel left out of the decision.